we are saying the same thing!
we need to be aware of how conditional and fragile are our efforts to counter destructiveness, and this fragility makes for a tension that is extraordinarily difficult to maintain, in theory and in practice. But there is no other point to clinical work than to aim for a mutual understanding that ameliorates destructiveness—not in a one-time overcoming but an incremental, imperfect process that requires continual self-correction and modulation of our course. (299)Intersubjective relations cannot, of course, be free of destruction.