she does sound optimistic though
The fact that mothers and infants benefit from the process of recreating a state of mutual regulation after mismatching and dysregulation offers an entirely different perspective on what it means to be ‘‘good enough,’’ to grow, to heal. (6)the safety of nonretaliatory survival means that the uncontrollability and unpredictability of the other can become a source of joy. (7)But Aron was also careful to stress asymmetry along with mutuality, which made mutuality in practice seem less dangerous.